Let’s talk about sex.
Now, I’m not an expert, but let’s just say that I probably enjoy sex more than the average woman. Having said that, I tend to do the things I enjoy doing quite frequently. And this is where I hear vast differences among women. I recently read an article written with the intention of “how to get the sexual spark back” after having children. There were tons of comments from women saying how much they could relate to the article and that they were looking for that spark that was there in the very beginning of the relationship. Ladies, let me be the first to break it to you-to him, there is no spark. I truly believe that this spark that women refer to is something we conjured up in our own minds. Now, I can only speak from my own experiences, but from what I can tell, men are ALWAYS ready, willing and able to have sex. They are never too tired, too busy, too moody, or whatever other excuses women can think of. Men aren’t wondering where the spark is in their relationships. And do you know why? It’s because they ENJOY having sex! I know. It’s a very simple concept. There is no psychology behind it. They don’t pine over the good ole days wondering where the woman they married has gone. You know why? Because to the man in your relationship, the woman they met 5 or 10 years ago is the very same woman he is staring at day in and day out. And you know what else? To him, she is just as sexy now as she was then.
Think about all of the things you really enjoy doing. For me, spending time with my children, reading a great book, cycling, going out with friends and going shopping are some of the things I look forward to doing on a day to day basis. For me, sex also falls into this category. Even though sex is with a partner (most of the time), I treat sex as “me time” – a time to feel good about myself, to feel sexy, to feel experimental, to feel united with the one I love, to feel loved, to feel comforted, to feel relaxed, to feel happy. Sex gives me all of that and more. So, why would I ever stop making time for it? In addition to that, why would I try to find excuses not to have it? I completely understand that life gets busy and you may not be able to have sex every single day, but for me in particular, I never really understood the “spark” excuse.